 | #51 - Management : Get ahead by being charming!posted by LSF Guest, Premium MembershipSaturday, February 27th 2010 @ 1:11 AM |
Music has charms to soothe the savage breast...To soften rocks, or bend a knotted oak. William Congreve. I am sure this does, but in the hands of a skillful manager, can also produce some very positive results!
So what do we mean by being charming. Well, what about this quote...It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious. Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900), Lady Windermere's Fan, 1892, Act I
Wikipedia's definition is more what I agree with: pleasant, charismatic
Managers often need to walk a fine line when it comes to persuading people on difficult proposals or resolving challenging disputes. Look no further but to use some of your charm to make things happen!
So what are the steps we can take:
- Express appreciation - take whatever opportunity there is to show and express appreciation to others as this increases their self-esteem and they also feel more competent and capable.
- Give people your attention - probably the most important one of all because the more closely you pay attention to other people, the more valuable and important they will feel they are, and the more they will like you.
- Give them your acceptance - everyone wants to feel accepted and this means you need to accept them without limitation, never to criticize or find fault.
So, I guess this is all easy stuff....
Good luck everyone!!
Harold James
